Take Accountability

I am sorry maybe I’m being biased but we live in a culture where people think that they can continuously do or say things that inflict hurt/pain on someone else’s. Then when they get called out on it they say, I APOLOGISE and that person is supposed to be okay with what they have done. I am so tired that some folks think it is okay to hurt people and that there are no ramifications for their actions

Cudney & Hardy (1993 ), suggests that when we lack awareness and insight  we tend to choose “self-defeating (hostility, defensiveness, manipulation and alienation) behaviours in response to a painful experience, our consciousness can easily override by the subconscious mind that let us believe this behaviour is a healthy and productive one”

Sometimes, we are still shackled to our past hurt/trauma. If these deep-seated inner wounds don’t address individually, we can carry them over into new connections and project our unhealthy habits unto another person.

If this resonates with anyone and you think moving forward you would like to start to coexist in healthy relationships. Start by taking accountability and reflecting on things you need to change, so you can heal and free yourself from habits, feelings and attitudes that might hold you back from living a fulfilling life.